When my boy starts dating, I'm going to have him read this thread. Keep it up fellas. We need to teach the young ones what they are in for, what to watch out for, and how to handle things when their radar goes off.
With that in mind, I would appreciate you posting advice for a young man that is entering the dating world. Any good tips at all. What to look for. What to do. What not to do. Etc.
It's one thing to hear your old man tell you "stories", but another to read it for yourself and see how real things get when you hear it first hand from others that are not your parents. Thank you all for sharing your stories, and your advice if you're willing to give it.
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I haven't read this, learned the hard way, but I've heard it belongs in every teenage boys dresser
"don't be a fool, wrap your tool "
show him the deke graph, explain the values and what it means, if he's an attractive 18yo boy dating attractive 18 yo girls, he's gotta work a lot harder than a smooth 26yo.
you lose money chasing women, you don't lose women chasing money (*at least when you're young, find balance in middle age)
have money, spend it on yourself having fun, they flock
Social circle is key, house partys, learn how to manage your reputation quickly
when I was a young man only chasing knockouts, a gray sad married 30yo man I worked with told me it's bad luck to turn women down, with exasperation he says, someday you'll want some strange, and it won't be there, and you'll be like,I should have gotten it when I could
I lived with room mates at the party house, chick roommate, and her chick friends, you never knew who was gonna be there, if I found cute girls in the wild, I'd bring them home and they'd walk o shame in front of the other cute chicks,
Banks don't lend $ to you unless you don't need it
employers want to hire people who don't need the job
girls want to sleep with guys who don't need them
if I disappeared for a couple nights, I was at an ugly girls house
but as far as anybody else knew, she was a mine, rumors were not confirmed nor denied
a reputation as a player is phenomenal, don't talk about, just wink
it does the work for you, take care of that reputation
Example, I always found somewhere else to be when the house party's started, I'd show up late and make an entrance (I also had a 500hp car - spending $on myself, remember)
chick roommate was a waitress and brought this 19yo hostess cute, some baby fat, long long blonde hair and huge rack home from work.
Apparently she told her to stay away from me because I lie to girls. Guess who was drunk, in the pool, waiting for me?
sucking my tongue, then telling me I'm a jerk, then sucking my tongue, then telling me I'm a jerk
she left the pool, found my room, feel asleep in my bed, I drug her to the couch, locked my door and 5 minutes later she's knocking, then slumps against the door and crumples. My penis hated me that night
that's because of my reputation
Another, 8 years ago I had a very sweet fwb thing with a realtor, completely no strings, just F'N, she was growing her business and basically everything but had me sign an NDA, I couldn't tell anybody about her, and i couldn't see any other realtors while we had our thing, uh ok. It was good clean fun, and it ended cleanly.
I run into a recently widowed neighbor to do some handyman work, she's dealing with her stuff, anyways, chit chatting, she's a realtor, I ask who she works with, knowing a handful, she works under the other chick, and has since maybe "then", I mention i knew her, but when questioned, just kinda brushed it off, oh, tell her I said hi...
I'm very curious how the conversation between them went, but I'm sure they had one, and she's now a great fwb, when the time is right I've gotta ask what was said
Age differences
I imagine it would be hard to have a 20 yo girlfriend, then keeping her, or keeping a stable relationship once she could go to clubs. Imagine being the sexiest dude in a group of 20yos, and y'all turn 21 and go to a big city club and 30 players are offering your girl coke, sure, she's not leaving you that night, but within 60 days she's going to create drama, start a fight and break up with you so she can test her value on the auction block
this would be a good age for a 21yo kid to learn about older women, but not fall in love
imo the best thing a young guy could do is make it to 28 without pregnancy or bad stds, and marry a 24yo girl with a degree and a skinny happy married mom
have him learn the "deke graph" any understand the changes in supply and demand
