Its been three years since my wife died. After the first year, I started POF, did some Match, Bumble, Zoosk. They all suck ass. Everyone is a liar, including me.
Met my share of crazy that I never even knew existed. Its scary that some of these ladies are walking among us.
Had one from POF that was gorgeous. I rarely message anyone first anymore and almost never the really hot chicks because almost always its a front for a porn link to your inbox. She messaged me and scams link always start with Hey there :)
This one didn't so my first question in almost always "about in town do you live?"
If they reply at all they will:
1. answer
2. tell me they aren't comfy answering that
3. ignore the question and ask me something else.
2&3 get deleted and blocked
Anyways, we chat a bit and this was covid shutdown season so we went for a walk on a local trail. Got along well, and my son was living here then so we end up at a hotel. We are going at it and I say that I can't stay there all night because I had a meeting at 730 and need to be up and showered and look right on the Zoom screen. She starts begging. Literally begging for me to stay. Asks over 100 times nonstop all the while my politely saying no I cant....no go back to slurping.
Finally, I get to the point I can't take it anymore. I tell her if she asks again, I am leaving. Then she starts up with "why would you leave".....over and fucking over. Finally I get up and start getting dressed. THEN she gets pissed the fuck off. Starts throwing shit at me. Shoes, the Bible, pens. glasses. I'm like WTF, I am out of here.......take care.
I only live about 1 mile from the hotel and had been drinking a little but nothing too much. The whole time I am going to my car, driving home, etc. my phone is blowing the fuck up. I finally get in and read all the insane verbal vomit she had texted me. She was going to have her "boys" beat my ass, she was going to send all my texts to my work, her "boys" were coming to the hotel to fuck it all up since I was on the paperwork. That one got me.
I got in my car and drove back to kick her ass out. I left her cause she was fairly buzzed and lived across town but fuck all that now.
I was nervous going back. It had been plenty of time to load up the room wtih her "boys" or other POF guys to finish her off (of which I am sure she would have plenty of takers). I get there, go to the desk and have to get a key card cause i left mine there. I had been drinking or I would have taken my pistol but I didn't. I grabbed a trash can from the lobby to prop the door open with incase I had to run out if shit was more than I could handle once I barged in, or someone could hear my scream for help!!
I burst in the door all no knock warrant style and she is gone. Nobody is there. She trashed the room, shit and toilet and didn't flush, but nothing permanent. Threw all the cushions and shit everywhere. Knocked the table over, rolled ALL the fucking TP everywhere. and the kicker was she took every fucking notepad and took every paper out and wrote "my name (which was wrong) is a methhead and deals drugsw out of this room." Placed them everywhere in the room. Every drawer, cupboard, in the fridge, under the mattress. Hundreds.
I cleaned all up and went home. She texted a couple days later like nothing ever happened. She didn't know I went back to the room so she assumed it was found by staff like she left it. We were talking and she asked what I ended up doing after I left and I finally told her I went back to the room and ended up partying with her "boys". She started making excuses but I just blocked her.
Another one, also at a hotel, ugly but
body. We hang out, drink some, do the deed and she starts yelling that she can't believe I would fuck her in a hotel.
I'm like WTF. You drove here, talked, took drinks, and was honestly the aggressor. This goes on for a bit and I finally told her to leave cause I was tired of hearing her. She won't. So I go to leave and she is grabbing me, pulling me, trying to not let me leave. KRAZYYYYYY
Ive been out with probably 12 girls from those sites. Most are pretty cool but all nuts in some way. But as they say, if everyone around you is nuts, maybe its you!!
Maybe it is.
The current FWBs are both pretty cool. One seems to think we are more than we are. The other is fine with being a toy when I want it. #1 has I'd say about 2 weeks left before she gets a phone block. The other I hope I can keep for a while.
Dating sucks ass, especially literally never doing it before until the last two years, and a half a year of that under C19.
I'd trade the hottest POF girl in a second for a good girl that I had fun with again as a true partner again.
dntsdad's words of wisdom........no matter how much your wife drives you nuts sometimes, she is probably better than dating. Appreciate her and having a steady life if that's how your built. I am and it sucks making the transition
On the plus side, never seen fake titties in person until recently nor done anal. My biggest surprise is how many girls like anal.