It's one we've been struggling with for awhile now.
As I mentioned above, my son/DIL have a spending problem. We forced my son to start saving by starting up a separate account not in his name that a chunk of his check goes to. Otherwise he would spend it.
They married Oct '21. We strongly suggested they wait out the craziness and get an apartment for a few months, which they did. But rent is so stupid they couldn't save more for a down payment. She got pregnant which wasn't going to help the finances. We bought a fifth wheel that they could live in for a while, but with the baby that wasn't exactly great so we remodeled the basement so they could move in their. It's a walk out so separate entrances, they have a kitchenette. The only shared part is laundry room.
Does it really make sense to have them buy a house they can't afford and then screw up their credit because it was foreclosed on? It annoys the living shit out of me, because we had moved into our second house by his age, had a shit ton of equity built up by then. And that is NOT how we raised him. He's getting better, but not that much yet.