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1, maybe 2. It was 3 or 4 but one moved away and the other's life went a different direction and we kind of fell out. Actually rebuilding that relationship but he wouldn't be a call I'd make if I had to disappear someone.

The one friend I know I could absolutely call upon for anything.
 
About 3, 1 in Vt 1 in nj 1 in fl. Still talk to two other people from the HS era.

Had an acquaintance stop being my acquaintance because I didn’t suddenly care that kids were in cages.
 
You want to find out who your real friends are, ask them to help you move and see how many show up.
 
To update this thread on one of the friends I mentioned in the original post.

Unprompted he sent me a FBM ad of a pair of 2a Jeeps, said the truck and trailer are yours if you want to grab this and storage at his place. I declined because I won’t do that to him. But I did tell him how much I appreciate that offer.
 
I have 2 I would call at 2am, and 1-2 more I could call when the sun came up to help finish, and a couple of son in laws I could count on. I employee several people that would show up then put it on their time card. I would never ask my wife to help, gotta give her plausible deniability. I usually end up developing what I thought was personal relationships with some customers, and have found almost all of them are very fair weather friends. If they need something from me, they show up at quitting time with a highball or two, but if I need something from them the call goes to voicemail, once I got comfortable with that, life has been better.

I’ve only ever met one person from here, through aviation though, but if I was f’ed up outta town, I could post up an SOS and I feel someone would reach out, just as if I saw someone post up they needed help where I’m at, I’d reach out.

As I’ve gotten older, and marginally more financially successful, Ive invested in equipment that made it so I didn’t have to require as many friends. 😂.
 
Along the same lines of the original post. One of the great things about this board is
If I, family or friend is stranded somewhere and needs help out of my immediate , there is someone here that can help them
 
You guys with no friends. Like not waiting till you need a gun to get a gun. You know you don’t wait till you need a friend to make a friend right? That’s something you gotta put in on the front end. My one friend whom I call a brother but not actually related to. Just turned 40. So I made him a 40 pack for the birthday party that’s getting thrown for him that he could totally do without. 40 of his favorite beers. 40 bucks. 40 rounds of .40 cal hollow point. And a 40 ounce bomber for old time sake. In all the years of relationships I’ve been in with ungrateful women. No matter how well thought out a gift I think I’ve given. None of them hard to please bitches appreciated anything like my brother appreciates this stupid box I put 10 minutes into with duct tape and a sharpie. That and I’m the first person there to get the party setup. Got some extra stuff he’s not allowed to have according to his old lady for later and I’ll still be there tomorrow morning when everybody else is gone to help clean up the mess.

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Probably more than I think, but one local guy for sure. 2 AM, need money, bring a trailer etc. he'd do it. Family tries to help but getting older. A few childhood friends who live across the US but would be very helpful if asked and close.

I have quite a few people that would help, but I don't like to ask so I don't. Just lift a little harder, use a winch etc.

I really don't mind helping others at all, but I really hate asking so it is just me. Wife will help in a pinch but we prefer that she not be involved in my car stuff LOL.
 
JR4X said:
You guys with no friends. Like not waiting till you need a gun to get a gun. You know you don’t wait till you need a friend to make a friend right? That’s something you gotta put in on the front end. My one friend whom I call a brother but not actually related to. Just turned 40. So I made him a 40 pack for the birthday party that’s getting thrown for him that he could totally do without. 40 of his favorite beers. 40 bucks. 40 rounds of .40 cal hollow point. And a 40 ounce bomber for old time sake. In all the years of relationships I’ve been in with ungrateful women. No matter how well thought out a gift I think I’ve given. None of them hard to please bitches appreciated anything like my brother appreciates this stupid box I put 10 minutes into with duct tape and a sharpie. That and I’m the first person there to get the party setup. Got some extra stuff he’s not allowed to have according to his old lady for later and I’ll still be there tomorrow morning when everybody else is gone to help clean up the mess.

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:lmao: For my 40th a buddy thought itwould be funny to buy me 2 cases of 40 ouncers that turned into a rough bloated night:lmao: It was great.
 
I’d say 4. 1 that would absolutely get my back no matter what. 2/4 of those relationships were on the brink of falling apart this year; one of them we sat and talked it out, the other is my best friend from high school and he just has a completely different life now.


Honestly, you fawkers on here have probably done way for me than local “friends” have done for me over the years. :smokin:
 
One of mine showed up earlier today, we moved a large dresser and a king size bed headboard.

Headboard had to go downstairs, we took it out via main entry and back in via garage.

Everything else I did on my own. Rearranged/moved around three bedrooms in the house, moved a king size bed downstairs by my lonesome (split entry house - mattress was a bear).

Hardly took us much time at all, pop some interior doors off of hinges and rock and roll. Had to fix a broken leg on the dresser, that set us back a couple min:laughing:.

It was but a few weeks back I helped him/wife unit return some outdoor furniture to Costco, and went through a playground sliding set his girls use, we made sure all the bolts were nice and tight.
I am the only one with a pickup and it comes in handy...

Over the past month I set him up with handtools as he is lacking in that department, today I gave him a nice US made 1/2" breaker bar that will certainly come in handy.

Now he can service brakes/oil change/house projects comfortably.
 
JR4X said:
You guys with no friends. Like not waiting till you need a gun to get a gun. You know you don’t wait till you need a friend to make a friend right? That’s something you gotta put in on the front end. My one friend whom I call a brother but not actually related to. Just turned 40. So I made him a 40 pack for the birthday party that’s getting thrown for him that he could totally do without. 40 of his favorite beers. 40 bucks. 40 rounds of .40 cal hollow point. And a 40 ounce bomber for old time sake. In all the years of relationships I’ve been in with ungrateful women. No matter how well thought out a gift I think I’ve given. None of them hard to please bitches appreciated anything like my brother appreciates this stupid box I put 10 minutes into with duct tape and a sharpie. That and I’m the first person there to get the party setup. Got some extra stuff he’s not allowed to have according to his old lady for later and I’ll still be there tomorrow morning when everybody else is gone to help clean up the mess.

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You and I are friends now. Sorry if you're not down with that... you don't really have a choice in the matter. You make me a 40 pack of pbr and I'm helping you with 7.62 night vision stuff. Just the way it is.


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Crash said:
Steve Gardner aka Little buddy from pbb.
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Man I am really out of the loop in the offroad world. I didn't realize Steve had passed! :( He was an amazing dude. When I lived in CA I used to visit him at his shop pretty regularly and help out with stuff. He will be missed for sure.
 
Poriggity said:
Man I am really out of the loop in the offroad world. I didn't realize Steve had passed! :( He was an amazing dude. When I lived in CA I used to visit him at his shop pretty regularly and help out with stuff. He will be missed for sure.
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Four years ago August. During covid he decided to have the shoulder surgery and during recovery he had a heart attack.

He was soooooo amazing. I miss him terribly. He helped me out for years.
 
45acp said:
You and I are friends now. Sorry if you're not down with that... you don't really have a choice in the matter. You make me a 40 pack of pbr and I'm helping you with 7.62 night vision stuff. Just the way it is.


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Well, you’re easy to buy :laughing::flipoff2:
 
Crash said:
Four years ago August. During covid he decided to have the shoulder surgery and during recovery he had a heart attack.

He was soooooo amazing. I miss him terribly. He helped me out for years.
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Crash said:
Four years ago August. During covid he decided to have the shoulder surgery and during recovery he had a heart attack.

He was soooooo amazing. I miss him terribly. He helped me out for years.
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You know now that you mention it, I think I heard that when it happened. I guess I kind of refused to believe it
 
Different life here.

Military brat, then military, then military spouse. So until I was 40 I was moving every 3 years or less. Since then I have moved 6 times so the average almost follows... :) So that meant no childhood relationships lasted, And any adult friendships were too fleeting to take root.

I have a different attitude about friends as well.. Pay it forward and do it first - show friendship, put in the effort and if it comes back, great, if not it was like any other investment... payoff is not always there, but I will stand with my head held high knowing I did my best.

1 high school friend and I keep in touch. Friends, but not sure he would answer my call, but I would answer his.

1 Navy buddy - stationed together in the mid 80's, then we saw each other in Japan in the mid 90's, then again in the early 2000's. He is currently medically not able to help even if I called (which I won't because he will show up and I will end up taking care of him).

1 friend I met thru the Bronco club in the late 90s via internet and later met in person in the 2000's. I always stop by his house whenever I'm within 1000(!) miles. Such a good guy I would answer any call any time. He is mid-late 70's and his wife is just over her second bout with cancer, so he has limitations as well.

1 friend I met gaming... seems odd for an old guy to say, but we just clicked. He is retired CIA, lives in VA and i could call on him for legal help, not illegal help. He has a mom with alzheimers, so that may cause issues for him to get free, but barring that I THINK he would show up.

So sometimes our number of friends is not limited by our attitudes (asshole/nice guy) but by the lives we have led and where we went.

I do not rue my choices.

As I wrote this a woman I met in an airport layover in Des Moines 3 years ago just wrote me a 'Happy Fathers Day' message... so I guess I am not too much of an asshole.
 
A customer asked me a while back how I don't go crazy at work being alone.

Aside from not having my dog, it's the same at home.

There's that "saying" about having a truck, trailer, tools, heavy equipment, etc draws "friends".
Been a few times I've even offered to help and usually get "naw it's ok"
 
AKnate said:
A customer asked me a while back how I don't go crazy at work being alone.

Aside from not having my dog, it's the same at home.

There's that "saying" about having a truck, trailer, tools, heavy equipment, etc draws "friends".
Been a few times I've even offered to help and usually get "naw it's ok"
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WellDriller here said the other day that all of his friends are pretend, and fit in a 4"x6" square. :laughing:
 
Don't know if I ever replied to this thread.
Me, myself and I.

Have people in my life, I do keep in touch with them. Some more regularly.

Being a single fellow, 46 and no dependents I lead a different life vs some of them who are raising kids, others are approaching retirement/are retired already.

My mom is my superstar, when I am on the road she takes care of watering the front lawn, and some other small things I cannot handle via a phone call/email.
Neighbors kid I pay to cut the mentioned grass in the front of the house.

My planned move to TN in the near future (if all pieces fall in their respective places) will not be a huge change, as I don't rely on others much.
 
3 real ones. The kind thatll come with cash, put up their house for bond, drive 2000 miles to help in a jam, "shovel and bag of lime" folks. Its reciprocal as well. Theyre all back on the east coast, im working in cali. Id say my direct boss is one, lucky i havent had to ask him yet. I enjoy working alone, the autonomy.

Ive been real dissapointed in most people. Having history is important. Shared values/ belief system is too. Got burned alot. Learned from my mistakes. Keep to myself fo the most part.
 
1 real one, 4 years ago it was 10 but covid changed people and not for the better
 
2 in Michigan and 2 in Alaska. I lived in Arizona twice and not a place I’d visit again 3 fb friends from there and they had also moved out of there it’s just to damm hot . My wife is more of a people person me not so much.
 
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