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Reading everyones replies kind of bummed me out. I dont have anyone that I hang out with. My oldest son moving back last year and coming to work with me, I hang out with him as much as with the ol ball and chain. that may or may not be healthy for the 3 of us. :laughing:

I have a "buddy" that we wheel with, used to race hare scrambles with too. But we dont do social shit together, at all.

Old highschool friend, we still talk every once in a while, if I pass through the old home town I'll stop in and say hi. But thats it. He's in a different time in life, started much later with the kids and wife than i did. I'm done, he's hard in the middle of raising two young girls. Plus his wife is rather annoying, my wife wont be around her. I dont blame her either.

But then I think back to my fire and the few guys that came out to help. It was humbling to say the least. One of those guys, jeff, I could call and he'd come. So I guess I have at least one guy to help shovel. :laughing:
 
I have a wife I can press into service if I really need help.

After that... I don't even have anyone I would consider asking.

If it's going to be, it's up to me.

(And asking for help is also not in my nature, even if it's to my own detriment).)

I have one friend who is more like a brother, and he would truly like to help, but that dude would NEVER be available, just due to his schedule and lifestyle, and I don't even consider calling.
 
grumpy356 said:
I have a wife I can press into service if I really need help.

After that... I don't even have anyone I would consider asking.

If it's going to be, it's up to me.

(And asking for help is also not in my nature, even if it's to my own detriment).)

I have one friend who is more like a brother, and he would truly like to help, but that dude would NEVER be available, just due to his schedule and lifestyle, and I don't even consider calling.
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ditto
 
I had two OG pbb guys drop everything to move me here to NV when I got really sick again. It was last minute notice as I had to move months sooner than we had planned on.

I have a friend I met in 4th grade and another in 8th grade that would get to me if I needed them.

These people would be the only reasons I would ever go back to CA for.

I have four now that Steve G has since passed away.

Edit: after reading other posts I realize the above four people would absolutely show up with shovels. :lmao:
 
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I've got a couple that would very likely do things to people I don't want associated with my IP if it came to that. I've got probably 2 that will do whatever is in their power to help me when I need it. The funny thing is those aren't the same 2. I've got countless acquaintances who say things like "let me know if you need anything." I always chuckle inside when they say shit like that. If you were actually my friend, you would know, I'll never ask you for help. If you are my friend, you will know what I'm up to and just show up and ask what you can do. I'm terrible at relationships and don't really socialize much at all because in general I don't really like people.

ETA: I've got shit tons of those acquaintances that owe me favors and I think would repay them if I ever called them to. They aren't bad people, I just don't want to hang around them.
 
1-3 at most, 1 would probably drop everything to come help but if I was 3 states away I would have to exhaust every option first Don't think I could ever ask for money. I unfortunately am back in a position of living paycheck to paycheck but still have options and if I was going owe money to someone it would be some corporation I could care less about.

If I was really having a hard time I would probably post here, lot of good advice here. Might have to "swallow" my pride and have food and drink put in me in me a romantic manner but would get plenty of opinions and options. All kidding aside there is a lot of good people on this board and a long the way may make a new lifelong friend.
 
Mother/Father - would do anything they possibly could to help, though they're getting to an age that there isn't much they can do anymore.
Friend #1 - Pretty much can count on same day for nearly anything (and visa versa), lives close by, and is a perfectionist like me so we work really well together, have helped each other countless times over the years, met in automotive community.
Friend #2 - Bit of a brute, but helpful in a pinch, if I were really stuck he'd give me a hand but I don't ask that often, nor does he...usually just lend tools lol have helped each other building sheds and such. Could count on within a few days, also met in automotive community.
Friend #3 - Is just useful hands, but nicest guy, only really ask for anything if friend #1 isn't enough help but he'll help. I also have worked on a few of his vehicles for him....guess what? Another automotive community friend.
Neighbour #1 - help each other all the time with little things, they usually feed me good food for helping them since I don't usually need anything more than "help me carry this" sort of things from them. Built them a deck a few years ago. Really nice to have a trusted neighbour right next door though, those last minute tiny things are just way easier and someone to keep an eye when not around.

Friend #4 and #5 - live hours away, they'd both help with whatever, was in both their wedding parties and visa versa, etc. but just not convenient due to distance.

Beyond that, I've got a probably dozen other people, mostly from work, that I could call in favours from if need be that would help but aren't friends per say. That said, the first couple friends would be impossible to replace and am so thankful for having people I can count on, not flakey at all, and am also able to return the favours (I try to give more than I take).
 
My circle is tightening at 44. 10 years ago my answer would be double what it is today. 4 today, kinda. 4 more that would drop everything and show up with money, shovel, weapons etc, we just don’t hang out much socially, different seasons of life. Pouring a patio soon, there will be 10 mf’ers here wanting to help even if they have no idea how to pour concrete.
 
2big bronco said:
What's a huge favor?


10-15 that would drive 200 miles and give me $2500 to tow my junk home with no stipulations (made up scenario).

Probably 30 in my phone that would show up and help with menial tasks if I broke both legs.

I'm fortunate enough to have a very large group of close friends, several of wich I met in kindergarten or earlier.
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^ this could very well change if something dramatic happened to you, not wishing anything on you but just saying. You truly find out what friends you have once you go through something long term that requires help. That’s where the rubber meets the road kind of thing and the light shines on who will be there for you.
 
Landslide said:
^ this could very well change if something dramatic happened to you, not wishing anything on you but just saying. You truly find out what friends you have once you go through something long term that requires help. That’s where the rubber meets the road kind of thing and the light shines on who will be there for you.
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EXACTLY.

When it's go time, everyone but MAYBE 3 will have a conflict in their schedule or an "obligation" that is more pressing than your needs.
(I couldn't find 2)

Don't get me wrong... every one of them in their heart of hearts truly believes they would help you... right up until you need help.
 
Crash said:
I had two OG pbb guys drop everything to move me here to NV when I got really sick again. It was last minute notice as I had to move months sooner than we had planned on.

I have a friend I met in 4th grade and another in 8th grade that would get to me if I needed them.

These people would be the only reasons I would ever go back to CA for.

I have four now that Steve G has since passed away.

Edit: after reading other posts I realize the above four people would absolutely show up with shovels. :lmao:
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Same Steve G from the PBB Toyota section?
 
blakes said:
zero

If I asked someone for help they would figure out a way to capitalize on it to hurt me
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That bums me out.

To all you guys who say you’ve got none. Did you do that on purpose? As in you want it that way. Don’t have to reciprocate if you’d never ask for help?

If you guys ever end up in the 4 corners area and in need reach out to me. I’ll do what I can without expecting anything and would never hold it over your head like you owed me something. My number is posted on the board, a lot of members here have it. If you want it now just in case pm. I won’t even share the Dick pics you send me with the board :flipoff2:
 
0 or maybe 1, I don't think anyone would do for me what I would do for them. Too old to care, got a kid I am trying to raise.
 
I'll give the shirt off my back to just about any of my friends.
I'll break my back for maybe a handful.
I'll bury a body for only 1 I can think of.
I don't expect the reciprocal from any of them, but there are a couple who have helped me out right-fucking-now when needed.

I wouldn't give any of them, nor accept from any of them, a dime. Money is the quickest way to end any relationship.
 
TennPass said:
I'll give the shirt off my back to just about any of my friends.
I'll break my back for maybe a handful.
I'll bury a body for only 1 I can think of.
I don't expect the reciprocal from any of them, but there are a couple who have helped me out right-fucking-now when needed.

I wouldn't give any of them, nor accept from any of them, a dime. Money is the quickest way to end any relationship.
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Money is a great shit test. Lend what you can afford to lose and see which so-called friends are real.
 
I've got a lot of good friends close by, but I've never had to test it. I'm the sort of idiot that would need to be on my death bed before I ask anyone for help.

Example- I rigged up this ghetto-ness rather than ask any of my friends to come over and spend 5 minutes helping me lift my finished cage back into my jeep. Wife told me I was a dummy for not phoning a friend or two. She's probably right.

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JR4X said:
That bums me out.

To all you guys who say you’ve got none. Did you do that on purpose? As in you want it that way. Don’t have to reciprocate if you’d never ask for help?

If you guys ever end up in the 4 corners area and in need reach out to me. I’ll do what I can without expecting anything and would never hold it over your head like you owed me something. My number is posted on the board, a lot of members here have it. If you want it now just in case pm. I won’t even share the Dick pics you send me with the board :flipoff2:
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Some of it has to do with what we consider a friend.


But let's skip that. You have friends, and you get out of school, some join the Army, some get married, some move for school, and some move for work.

You stay in touch for a while, then you realize you're the one putting out all the effort, and that pairs down & down.

Now you got a job, you get off, you got a wife, you got a kid, you have a yard that needs mowed.
They got a job, and wife, and kid, and a lawn that needs mowing.
so everybody is busy..... all the time...

OR... They don't and are out chasing skanks and getting blackout drunk at 30.

and now you have a geography element. Who is close ? If you live a lifestyle where there aren't a lot of collateral people, your pool gets' even smaller


So now you have "work friends" & "Gym Friends" & "parent fiends" But they all have a job, and wife, and kid, and a lawn that needs mowing.
They are truly just acquaintances.

Now you put out a lot of effort in trying to schedule thing for a while , but it never works out, and eventually you just get tired of asking.

There is a barroom toast that goes:

Here's to you here's to me
May we never disagree.
But if we do -- then fuck you!
Here's to me!

Yeah. at some point you realize the truth in that toast.
People always look out for their own best interest, and they don't have the time or emotional space for your problems and your shit.


Well that's kinda what it looks like to me anyway.
 
I'm married to my best friend. I have one other buddy who lives between 4-8 hrs away depending on if he is at work or not that I see once or twice a year - but either one of us would make the 8 hr drive on a moment's notice in the middle of the night if called upon. I used to have another, but he has become super flakey the last couple of years since he got divorced.

I have nobody nearby that I could call more than an acquaintance.
 
the conservative atheist said:
Money is a great shit test. Lend what you can afford to lose and see which so-called friends are real.
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Thank you for the memory jolt...... another former pbb'r also helped me move by a surprise donation of 1k to help me move. He saved my life!! I paid him back with my very next SSDI payment, which was about all but $100.00 of what I was paid, but it was more than important to me to pay it back asap.
 
Tin Roof said:
I have 4 or 5 that I know if I really needed them they'd be there in the drop of a hat. Same for me if they need anything. We don't necessarily see each other that often anymore, but that trust/bond is still there.
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Same here.

Some of yall are some sad mother fuckers. Now with that said, I haven't been much of a friend the last 8 years (kids). Having 2 kids, with zero family help, with actually family requiring me to help them with no return, with both wife and I working full time-- has been a drastic change to lifestyle. I can't be "all in" anymore.

I have 4 or 5 friends that in an actual emergency I'll drop everything and go. But if it's "Hey I need someone to weld this thing on muh 4 wheeler" then it's gonna take me a few days to work you into my schedule.
 
Russell said:
I'm married to my best friend. I have one other buddy who lives between 4-8 hrs away depending on if he is at work or not that I see once or twice a year - but either one of us would make the 8 hr drive on a moment's notice in the middle of the night if called upon. I used to have another, but he has become super flakey the last couple of years since he got divorced.

I have nobody nearby that I could call more than an acquaintance.
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Sorry dude.

This is complete bullshit.

She's you wife. That ain't the same.

And don't get me wrong. It's a HIGHER position.

It would be like having a PHD (wife) and saying, well I got a perfect attendance award in 3rd grade (friend).
WIFE, while they may have some common responsibilities in the organizational chart, is a different position than friend. She's at the top of the chart.
She WON. She doesn't compete with them anymore.

Same with your kids.
 
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