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east_beast said:
Oh no. The toxic semi-hot chick who has always gotten away with treating men like shit because they're trying to fuck her and she knows it.
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Watch episodes of the “whatever” podcast on YouTube. It gives you a pretty good window into what type of toxic feminism is out there right now and getting worse. Colleges actually have feminism classes too.
 
Tooheysmax said:
My suggestion

1. If she physical confronts you. My suggestion position yourself in camera view.
2. Keep hand down and make a couple attempts to look directly at the camera.
3. You never mentioned gender of HR
4. Whom do they “report” to I’m not referring to the actual supervisor.
5. If confronted in your work space get up and walk to view of camera make sure to walk past more then one before stopping to show her following you to be the instigator. Stop for a moment look in there direction before proceeding to walk away again. Then document times days and locations of video.
This will show you are being harassed. You will still probably need to look for new work. But metro times and dates even if it doesn’t involve you all incidents will help close the case.
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I would recommend carrying a voice activated recorder as well with you at all times. Save the encounters. Some states are funny about their laws with this but typically voice recordings are more acceptable legally than video recordings you make. Even if you can’t use it in a court of law, you can sure prove your point in the company.

If you have to have any meetings with HR and you believe the deck is stacked against you, request your boss be present in the meetings.
 
Provience said:
It's odd because on the one hand, absolutely.

On the other, I told a gal the other day she needs to give a senior person [who she is intimidated by because she's new] a whole list of fuck yous and fuck that and eat shit. No asking, just telling, "use these words, if you won't. Let me know and I will" because I was out of the office and she was there, easier to deliver in person.

A few hours later, I found out she wilted a bit....so next time I see her, I'll have to find out why. Also, she is supposed to work in my office starting last week. Apparently is putting it off because I yell sometimes.

That sort of stuff won't get me fired. My bigger concern is that I'll say "I didn't let women work here, I just deal with it since they do" and somebody will take offense and I'll end up with sensitivity training
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Why do you feel the need to yell at people? Is it warranted or you can’t control your temper?
 
dwygrsshpr said:
Especially GMs at high end dealerships (overall a generalization but I have met more idiots and/or scumbags than not). They think they are a providing a specialized service. No, I'm here because the car sells itself - you just happen to be the middle-man.

OP - "Office Bully" is paydirt for HR and I like some of the strategies of baiting her in front of cameras or responding to texts "I don't understand, what do you mean?" Screenshots and get it via email are clutch (email especially because IT has that all backed up). Definitely keep taking the high road and kill her with kindness. If she lashes at you in the break room (or whatever) Say something like, it sounds like you're having a bad day, anything you want to talk about? What can I do to help?

Problem is (and has been stated) if she is eye-candy at a luxo shop, she is fighting from an elevated position and they will let her toxicity slide until they start losing sales because of it. Pretty sure she knows that and can game it; she seems well practiced.

The Art of War is a book I recommend everyone read. One of my favorite quotes is: "If you wait by the river long enough, you will see the body of your enemy float by". Meaning, don't engage them (her) on their turf and let them self-destruct. Have patience.

Oh, and as a back-up polish your resume and start shopping yourself around. High end shops are a small community as you probably know and if you have a clientele list or contacts, you will get snapped up.

Keep your nose clean and relish in the drama. It's stressful, but fun to push someone to self-implosion. Psy-ops is an artform.
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Just keep this in mind however, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. The next place could be even more toxic environment too as there’s a reason they have an opening to hirer you.
 
gt1guy said:
I'm glad I work offshore internationally. I get a email asking if I'm available for work. If I say yes, I get a contract sent to me to sign, followed by airline tickets.
I'll be the first to admit that I'm not a good fit for any kind of office setting.
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I started in the field internationally on rigs, and now I am in the corporate office for a major drilling contractor. I am the last person they drag into meetings and ask for opinions.
 
Landslide said:
Why do you feel the need to yell at people?
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Where did he say he yelled at people?

I've yelled a ton of inappropriate shit at work, just never at someone.

You never let out a purely rhetorical "what the fuck?" or "mother fucker!" ? :confused:

Gotta' vent that shit, homie - otherwise it turns into cirrhosis or AIDS :flipoff2::laughing:
 
My HR dude is pretty useful. He has made my job way easier than before we had HR.


OP..........And then......
 
lagunaMS said:
I asked my coworkers in a meeting last week if they were "ready to fuck this pig."
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It’s an apt analogy, pig fucking being a team activity. :lmao:
Provience said:
Because fuck them :flipoff2: need to match the enegery in the room some times.

Other times people think I yell when I talk
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We have a 20 year employee that quit after her first day because my dad yelled so much. I just had to talk to her the other day about how her phone doesn’t work because she slams it and yells MOTHER FUCK in her Filipina accent twice a day. :lmao:
 
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