#1. Is you need to support the place for what it IS, and not try to change it. Untold people (lots from California) moved into new high rise condos in downtown Austin because it was “cool”. They quickly became annoyed with live music being played every night and BBQ smoke blowing into their windows, and started lobbying to shut it down. No shit, the two most defining characteristics of the city, and what draws people there.
#2. Is voting/political views. The top 1% of conservatives in California are probably left of center in Alabama, they just don’t have any idea. Leave that shit behind, it hasn’t worked.
This also carries over to local “traditions/ways of doing things.” Something like a 200 acre wooded city park that isn’t “off leash” for dogs, but has been accepted as one for 10 years. It is expected that if you have your dog off the leash, you’ve trained it, socialized if, and can maintain control of it. Some new millennial couple from CA that just bought their first dog, a 10 month old husky that’s a loaded gun lets it off the leash because they see other dogs “having fun.” It tears ass all over the place, doesn’t listen to them, and ends up biting another dog. “Karen”, (also recently moved there from CA), sees it happen and calls the cops, because she is afraid of dogs, and doesn’t want to use the other 10 city parks that are the same but most people don’t let dogs off there. She informs them that there is a “leash law” posted, and they need to come enforce it. So they do, for everyone.
Same deal with a park along the river that you aren’t supposed to have alcohol at, however most of the people there keep a 6 pack in the cooler and are hanging out relaxing. Cops roll by and as long as nobody is staggering around, underage, or naked, they let them be. Cali boys roll up with a few 30 packs, start shotgunning them, blasting music, swearing, and “bro-shove-fighting”, cops crack down on having a beer there.
#3. Is something that isn’t necessarily their “fault” by choice, it just happens. When they left a place where $750,000 bought you a shit hole condo and moved somewhere that market price is $275,000 for a reasonable 3/2 house, who cares if it turns into a bidding war and they end up paying $300k for it? Burr is happy, seller is happy, win/win. As this continues to happen, property values start shooting up, which is cool until rents start jumping 30%, so people have to move out. Those who have been saving up to buy a house can’t afford to any more, and grandpa’s property taxes go through the roof so his social security won’t cover them anymore on his paid for house.
That ones not specific to people from CA or NY obviously, but folks relocating from Kansas or Tennessee for work generally don’t have the same leverage.