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Will12785

Will12785

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I hear people talk about communicating with siblings and parents and uncles and aunts and cousins etc. I also hear about a lot of family drama.

Me on the other hand, I'm not really close with my family. I talk to my sister on occasion via text and will call my mom sometime but other then that I really don't talk to my family at all. I have a string of text history with several family members that's annual "happy birthday" texts.

It's not like I'm ignoring them because they don't reach out to me either. I texted my dad a meme once and he didn't text me back for 3 months :laughing: other than that the family pretty much only gets together for funerals.
 
My dad's side yeah, but only if we're in close proximity and that kinda goes for everyone on my dad's side.

No with my mom's side. Get along with my stepdad more than anyone else on that side. :laughing:
 
I'm close with my family.

Probably talk to my dad monthly or so and my mom & sister yearly or twice yearly. Cousins every few years we see each other.

That's not the point though, the point is I could show up at their door unannounced and be fine. Somewhat announced and be fed/borrow a car or whatever else.
 
My parents and inlaws? Yes. Very.

Very little contact with any family beyond that. So much fucking drama. No thanks.
 
Parents and brother I talk to every so often.

Everybody else.....I might see ya at christmas:laughing:
 
Provience said:
I'm close with my family.

Probably talk to my dad monthly or so and my mom & sister yearly or twice yearly. Cousins every few years we see each other.

That's not the point though, the point is I could show up at their door unannounced and be fine. Somewhat announced and be fed/borrow a car or whatever else.
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I mean shit if that's all it takes to be considered "close"... Well then yea.

Cept for the monthly talk.

Id consider that more like we tolerate each other. Definitely not close.
 
Nope. The few family I do have is on the “Harris is wonderful” train. I can’t tolerate it anymore and I’m about to just go AWOL on them. Wife and I will live better without them and their ignorance
 
No, haven’t seen my parents in months and rarely get a text/call from my mom and almost never from my dad. Haven’t seen or talked to my siblings in years.
 
Yes. Near daily discussion with immediate. Weekends with parents all summer.
 
Nope.

I live by the rule that your friends are the family that you got to pick for yourself.

And even with those friends, we can go for months without talking but pick right back up where we were the last time.
 
dwygrsshpr said:
Nope.

I live by the rule that your friends are the family that you got to pick for yourself.

And even with those friends, we can go for months without talking but pick right back up where we were the last time.
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I keep in touch with my friends about as much as I do my family
 
Close to immediate family and brother in law and mother in law. Father in law sucks.
Extended family on dad's side are white collar university type people, they don't really understand us.
Extended family on mum's side are still in California. Haven't seen any of them in...pushing 25 years? One uncle by marriage was pretty cool back then. Vietnam vet, lots of health issues from it. One of mum's brothers was a really cool guy from what dad told me, but he got killed.
 
Will12785 said:
I keep in touch with my friends about as much as I do my family
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I would recommend talking to your friends more often then. Doesn't have to be a long convo - a funny meme, a "remember when..." just a shot to let them know you are keeping tabs and you might need a hollaback too. I practice what I preach. I will shoot a text over : "You good bro?" "You good babe?" "What's the happenings?" "How's the new doggo?" "Is that POS boat running yet?" et cetera, et cetera. Meaning, everyone is busy but we reach out often enough to check in that there is still someone on the other end. Remembering birthdays or other special dates/holidays is great.

I am both introverted and extroverted depending on the day, mood, moon phase (:laughing:) but I keep the family at arm's length. Sometimes I am jealous (not jealous?) of friends that come from huge families where everyone helps on the farm, animal harvesting, holidays, etc, but then I also like my solitude with just me, wife, and kiddo and ZERO drama unless I created it myself.

We are social creatures and need the back-and-forth with fellow meat popsicles, so figure out what turns your dials and/or ask for more help. This board is full of bad ideas =)
 
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Way too close. Parents aren’t terrible, brother is turning his life around, so that’s good. The rest are trash.

I don’t talk to the rest unless it’s a buisness deal. I’ve been burned more by family.
 
No. Been closer to my brother the last 7 months since my dad fell. Now that he is gone and we have finalized his estate, I suspect we won’t talk much, if ever. Wife talks to her mom & sisters but we don’t get together.
Cousins - next to never.
 
dwygrsshpr said:
I would recommend talking to your friends more often then. Doesn't have to be a long convo - a funny meme, a funny "remember when..." just a shot to let them know you are keeping tabs and you might need a holla too. I practice what I preach. I will shoot a text over: "you good bro?" "You good babe?" "What's the happenings?"

We are social creatures and we need the back-and-forth
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Ehh. I could count on 1 hand the number of times and people who have reached out to me over ny whole life. I'm not social and I'm not a very likeable guy :laughing:
 
Parents will test me at times.

Over many many years in phone conversations with my dad, this has happened more than once.

Dad; blah blah blah (guilt trip) bla-BLAH b-bah.

Me; click

:laughing:
 
Provience said:
That's not the point though, the point is I could show up at their door unannounced and be fine. Somewhat announced and be fed/borrow a car or whatever else.
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This for a great many of my cousins. Don't ever see them really, but if I called I'd get some help as needed.

dwygrsshpr said:
And even with those friends, we can go for months without talking but pick right back up where we were the last time.
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I was big on this for years, but eventually it became me checking in on everyone.

Still gots a couple guys I bit here or there, but its infrequent now.

What really bummed me out was when my wife got sick, people created some distance, and the relationships suffered. Never been the same.
Will12785 said:
I keep in touch with my friends about as much as I do my family
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This were I'm at now.

I have decent relationships with my folks, her folks, but I don't go out of my way to visit anyone or call them up. My wife keeps everything held together. If I lost her, I'd only talk to my kids probably.
 
I try and stop by my dads at least once a week. We are real close. He is getting up there in age and so I try and spend as much time with him as possible. His wife (step mom) is like a second mother to me. She came into the picture after my real mother died when I was in my early twenties and pulled us both out of a tail spin to hell.
 
My parents and I communicate at least every other week by phone call or text. Sometimes weekly.
I see my sister maybe once or twice a year. We get along well but are not close at all.

I live around my moms family and see some of her siblings regularly and get a long well with them.

My wife’s family is not close at all. We see her parents maybe a couple times a year and only live 5 miles from them. She’ll go over a year without communicating with a couple of her siblings. I don’t think we’ve seen her youngest sister in almost two years and she lives less than 10 miles away. They don’t do holiday gatherings anymore either.
 
No. Not very close with my parents at all, my whole family growing up lived in the same neighborhood and we still barely saw each other outside of holidays:laughing:. My mom worked in the family biz with my grandpa and uncles, so family functions were like a corporate Christmas party:barf:. Not close with my wife's immediate family, they suck, but her extended family is awesome and I feel more a part of theirs than my own but barely see them.

If my wife and I died today, my parents and sisters wouldn't know for probably 6 months to a year.
 
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I see my dad and brother at least 5 times a week, because I work with them. We hardly talk outside of work, maybe once a month unless it's a after work meeting or something.
I'm content with just being home alone, that doesn't happen because of my wife and daughter.
 
Pretty close. Sister is going to Moab with wife and I in a couple of weeks. Talk to my mom and dad at least once a month. Wife see her parents 1-2 times a month because of work. My brother is still chasing the cheese hard, even though he is already a multimillionaire. Both my daughters and spouses are with us tonight at the rodeo. Maybe it's a small town thing, but gotta keep family close
 
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