all I can say is it's dirt simple
just get out there and do it, both of you are way overqualified
One thing that isn't immediately obvious is that you need to tune the rake angle of the tool to avoid bending the bar.
Too positive and it'll bite, pull in, let go, bite, pull in, let go, too negative and it'll sing just the same from pushing the bar off center
the ideal rake angle of the tool also changes with the feed per revolution and depth of cut, so you got a pretty wide range of acceptable angles just by varying how fast you feed in