BearChow
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Obligatory Joke. My wife gave me the best gift ever for my 50[SUP]th[/SUP] birthday, she had her vocal cords surgically removed.
Seven years ago, my wife was in a very bad motorcycle accident. A lot of which was documented on the other site under my previous username red90yj.
Short story for our 20[SUP]th[/SUP] anniversary she decided to buy a motorcycle and learn to ride it. After taking the MAF class and 6 months of practice on roads we and the day before our anniversary we started 150-mile road trip. First day was 50 miles. We never reached that destination. She became fixated in a turn and hit a guard rail at 50 mph. She broke her left leg in three places, degloved most of it, lost a large portion of muscle, had a stick pierce her running through her belly and out her back. If that wasn’t enough harm, the hospital traumatized, damaged and paralyzed one of her vocal cords while attempting to intubate her. We then spent six months in a hospital and/or rehab. She endured numerous surgeries then and since and continues to struggle with physical limitations and exhaustion.
The greatest limitation has been her inability to take a breath. With the permanent damage to her airway, scar tissue problems and paralyzed vocal cord. Her air way is less than 1/3 of an average adult. We deal with a lot of choking issues and exhaustion simply from not getting enough air flow. Best way to demonstrate it is, walk up a flight of stairs while breathing through a straw. One will quickly find it’s laborious at best.
After multiple tests, therapies and surgeries, she has decided breathing is more important than speaking and she is scheduled to have her vocal cords removed and her windpipe expanded. I'll be 50 this year she's a year less. We have a bunch of years to share with each other and I'm seeking some ways to make this transition easier.
I've already considered capturing audio from her now, maybe key statements, she could share with her future self or future grand kids. I'm on a short time frame as the surgery is scheduled for July and anything, we record will be somewhat exhausting for her to complete. Anyone want to share a great idea on things to record? I've considered a recording for her voicemail to specifically contact her through email/text. Are there other key business or functions that we should be addressing, maybe banking and insurance?
If you’ve dealt with mutism feel free to reach out to me. Most things online I’ve found is on selective mutism, and very little on physical mutism. I’m told she won’t even be able to whisper. Life goes on we will learn and adapt. I just figured I could put it to the great minds of this forum and writing this done does certainly make it more real for me. I'll miss her voice.
Thanks
Seven years ago, my wife was in a very bad motorcycle accident. A lot of which was documented on the other site under my previous username red90yj.
Short story for our 20[SUP]th[/SUP] anniversary she decided to buy a motorcycle and learn to ride it. After taking the MAF class and 6 months of practice on roads we and the day before our anniversary we started 150-mile road trip. First day was 50 miles. We never reached that destination. She became fixated in a turn and hit a guard rail at 50 mph. She broke her left leg in three places, degloved most of it, lost a large portion of muscle, had a stick pierce her running through her belly and out her back. If that wasn’t enough harm, the hospital traumatized, damaged and paralyzed one of her vocal cords while attempting to intubate her. We then spent six months in a hospital and/or rehab. She endured numerous surgeries then and since and continues to struggle with physical limitations and exhaustion.
The greatest limitation has been her inability to take a breath. With the permanent damage to her airway, scar tissue problems and paralyzed vocal cord. Her air way is less than 1/3 of an average adult. We deal with a lot of choking issues and exhaustion simply from not getting enough air flow. Best way to demonstrate it is, walk up a flight of stairs while breathing through a straw. One will quickly find it’s laborious at best.
After multiple tests, therapies and surgeries, she has decided breathing is more important than speaking and she is scheduled to have her vocal cords removed and her windpipe expanded. I'll be 50 this year she's a year less. We have a bunch of years to share with each other and I'm seeking some ways to make this transition easier.
I've already considered capturing audio from her now, maybe key statements, she could share with her future self or future grand kids. I'm on a short time frame as the surgery is scheduled for July and anything, we record will be somewhat exhausting for her to complete. Anyone want to share a great idea on things to record? I've considered a recording for her voicemail to specifically contact her through email/text. Are there other key business or functions that we should be addressing, maybe banking and insurance?
If you’ve dealt with mutism feel free to reach out to me. Most things online I’ve found is on selective mutism, and very little on physical mutism. I’m told she won’t even be able to whisper. Life goes on we will learn and adapt. I just figured I could put it to the great minds of this forum and writing this done does certainly make it more real for me. I'll miss her voice.
Thanks