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Refusing gifts?

ExWrench said:
Hats and hat-value "stuff" =/= $150 bottle of wine or a pair of box seats for a sportsball game.
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Here up to 600 is legit
Sandy Johnson said:
One tried to set me up with a hawaii vacation. "Sorry boss, I gotta take some time off to enjoy this bribe."
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Work wide I think gifts are ok. Genuinely to show thanks for the trust etc... same people would gladly shop my pricing but doesn't hurt

Lately weve done 100 or 250 restaurant gift cards. I have maybe 10 people tops I give them too and they like it to take the wife out etc. I always keep a few handy for unexpected situations too. People quiet up quick for a gift card lol 🤷
Yota Up said:
Bingo. It was a brief summer fling, they met on vacation and spent some time a few times. It's over now, she lives hundreds of miles away.
She's not the first one to try and hang onto sister in an effort to cling to him. It's not good for the girl, either. She needs to get over him and move on.
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If he knows how to handle it why take it out on her? No sense in being rude if she's working through some shit
 
ExWrench said:
Your daughter can't remain friends with your son's ex-girlfriend? Must the entire family shun her out of loyalty to your son?
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it keeps the drama to a minimum. I get your point, but people are assholes and manipulate the shit out of each other to 'win'.

best to cut off all contact and keep it easy.
 
gladman said:
it keeps the drama to a minimum. I get your point, but people are assholes and manipulate the shit out of each other to 'win'.

best to cut off all contact and keep it easy.
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Yeah, he explained the situation (as he sees it) later after I asked that question.

Based on the OP, that could've gone either way and I sought clarification.

But thanks for explaining how to interact with humans :flipoff2:
 
I don't want gifts from customers.
I don't want gifts from people or family that I don't like or talk to on a regular basis that are trying to buy my affection and want bragging rights. I will refuse these gifts.

I don't like Christmas because then people seem obligated to give gifts and I don't want anything, fuck I'm not even thinking about anyone else enough to buy them something.
 
M92PV4U said:
I don't like Christmas...
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M92PV4U said:
I don't like Christmas because then people seem obligated to give gifts and I don't want anything, fuck I'm not even thinking about anyone else enough to buy them something.
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This, and getting added to a family gift exchange without being asked, sometimes for people who I see every couple of years and I don't have social media to keep up with what they are doing and what they might want. I'm terrible at gifts. it causes me anxiety, but if they need someone to help paint their house or put in a 12 hour day wrenching on their shitbox or something i'm usually down.

My company used to do white elephant gifts at the christmas party, I absolutely hated it, all of the petty scheming and backstabbing and then some people being butthurt about being stuck with a joke gift etc. Now the company buys a bunch of stuff and we do a raffle where you put your tickets in for the stuff you want to win. Way better.
 
gladman said:
yeah, sprinkle some jesus in there, that'll make it all better... if you want it all fucked up.
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It'd be a lot easier to get behind the dude's birthday party if anyone, anywhere could remember him showing up for his own party ever. You know the old saying, "fool me once . . . " :laughing:
 
M92PV4U said:
I don't like Christmas because then people seem obligated to give gifts and I don't want anything.
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I hear that. Well, I like Christmas because I like having a reason to see the family, but the gift giving I get. Everyone I would buy gifts for during Christmas pretty much has what they need. Shit, my mom is in her 80s and trying to downsize, why would I get her more crap? I get my wife things that she or we need/want when we need/want them. It's not like I'm going to wait until Christmas to get her a new mountain bike if the one she's been eyeing is on sale in June. I'm also not going to get her some useless crap that will just end up stuffed in our attic in a few months.

So yeah, getting presents for people is hard, mainly because I believe they should be useful and not some empty token to symbolize the holiday.





...my kids get legos and nerf guns and all kinds of shit, but they're kids and that's part of the joy of having a birthday/Christmas/Easter/etc.
 
MigGunslinger said:
This, and getting added to a family gift exchange without being asked, sometimes for people who I see every couple of years and I don't have social media to keep up with what they are doing and what they might want. I'm terrible at gifts. it causes me anxiety, but if they need someone to help paint their house or put in a 12 hour day wrenching on their shitbox or something i'm usually down.

My company used to do white elephant gifts at the christmas party, I absolutely hated it, all of the petty scheming and backstabbing and then some people being butthurt about being stuck with a joke gift etc. Now the company buys a bunch of stuff and we do a raffle where you put your tickets in for the stuff you want to win. Way better.
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I'll play secret santa with my family and my wife’s dad and brothers, but I don't play gift exchange games, or any games for that matter.
 
ExWrench said:
It'd be a lot easier to get behind the dude's birthday party if anyone, anywhere could remember him showing up for his own party ever. You know the old saying, "fool me once . . . " :laughing:
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....are you talking about the well digger skipping out on the Nevada County Fair this year or Jesus? :flipoff2:
 
I tell a lot of people not to buy me anything. It's not that I don't like gifts, It's that I don't want the people I care about to waste their money. If I need something, I get it myself. If I don't, it's just clutter to me.
 
det107 said:
Give her $500.00 as a gift. 😉


But don't you dare declare it as a loan 5 yrs later- :flipoff2:
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She doesn't need money either. Also her view on money or gift cards as a gift is that they're not "thoughtful". She's a hard one to get stuff for. She can afford to buy whatever she wants, and generally does it. I usually just try to pimp out her house with more automation(light bulbs, cameras, thermostat, etc) that her Alexa can run each year. She likes all of that stuff but has no idea what to buy or how to set it up. Last year a a bunch of caseta switches and controller.
 
Sandy Johnson said:
So yeah, getting presents for people is hard, mainly because I believe they should be useful and not some empty token to symbolize the holiday.
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I said this recently about birthdays, so I'mm'a paraphrase that pair o' phrases here:

If you're young enough (or old enough) that you're excited for birthday candles, you get gifts.​
Everyone between 10 and ~85, get over yourselves until you're senile, please :flipoff2:​

If folks get together for family and/or shared beliefs and that makes 'em happy, great. As soon as some asshat injects obligations into the equation, fuck 'em sideways with a rusty shovel dipped in AIDS:flipoff:.

Sandy Johnson said:
...my kids get legos and nerf guns and all kinds of shit, but they're kids and that's part of the joy of having a birthday/Christmas/Easter/etc.
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When my niece and nephew were little was the best time to give 'em gifts: really cool impractical shit or things that made ungodly annoying noises & pissed off their parents :grinpimp: Seems like the last 10 years we got 'em something, it was just Bezos EBT cards :frown:. They've been out on their own long enough that I don't think we get 'em shit any more (would have to check w/ my wife :homer: :laughing:).
 
Customers very frequently try to give me cash.

I refuse and explain "you are getting a bill for this, save your cash"
I'd love to take the gift but that opens you up to BS I don't need.
 
Sandy Johnson said:
It was my friend's birthday yesterday. He manages a bunch of developer-nerds all over the world and while we're drinking beer in my kitchen last night, checks his phone:
"Shit! Linkedin tells people when it's your birthday?!?!? God damn it!" He figured it out because his team's slack started blowing up. :lmao:
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It's spooky how much shit that shit share.

They forced us to make an account as part of leaving the .mil. Also tried to get me to buy a suit a tie, claiming I'd never get a job otherwise, pretty much told them tough shit on that.
The lady running it couldn't understand MOST people aren't going to interview to be executives and clean pants, boots and a button up shirt are more than fine.
Imagine showing up in a suit for a position running a dump truck 🤣

I had to delete the Linked In, was constant harassment from recruiters wanting me to go work in Iraq for $50-60k a year.
Maaaybe would consider for 3x that, otherwise Hellllllll NO
 
AKnate said:
It's spooky how much shit that shit share.

They forced us to make an account as part of leaving the .mil. Also tried to get me to buy a suit a tie, claiming I'd never get a job otherwise, pretty much told them tough shit on that.
The lady running it couldn't understand MOST people aren't going to interview to be executives and clean pants, boots and a button up shirt are more than fine.
Imagine showing up in a suit for a position running a dump truck 🤣

I had to delete the Linked In, was constant harassment from recruiters wanting me to go work in Iraq for $50-60k a year.
Maaaybe would consider for 3x that, otherwise Hellllllll NO
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Sandy Johnson said:
That part 100%. They're quiet when they're building and reasonably quiet when they're playing with them afterwards. ...Except for space ship battles in the hallway. They still don't believe me that there shouldn't be any sound in space. :homer:
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I was banned from Lego while dad was asleep because it was too loud:shaking:
 
Sucks to hear how many of you can't accept things at work.
It was one of my favorite perks in engineering/construction, having all sorts of contractors constantly taking us out to dinner/lunch/bars for surf/turf or showering us with jackets and Tshirts and everything under the sun. One time, they took me golfing but my Tshrit didn't have a collar as required by golf course so the guy paid $75 for a shirt for me at the shop there.

Never tainted us in awarding bids. It was their way of staying on top of our minds just to be able to bid projects to begin with, and I'm sure all those companies have a budget in place to grease the wheels as a cost of business.
 
Sandy Johnson said:
That's funny- since we got the kids Legos my wife has banned me from making stuff out of them after the kids go to bed for the same reason.
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We eventually ended up with an old sheet in the lego bin, so it could be lifted out, and they would be spread across the sheet so I didn't have to dig in the bin. Also helped with not having me dragged out of bed at 4am when dad stepped on one getting ready for work.:laughing:
 
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