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Refusing gifts?

We don't try to keep sets separate. Once my kids stop fixing it after they break it a few times, it goes in a tub with all the other legos as doner parts to whatever they want to build. We keep all the instructions together in filing cabinet. If they want to rebuild something, they have to get the directions and then hunt for all the parts they need. It doesn't happen too often. Most of our lego adventures are spent building new stuff out of all the doner parts:

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That was the plan, I gotta get both of em into building their own shit like God intended lol. Random but kids have the same PJ's lol. If you haven't yet, they make adult pants too that are awesome and work nice as long underwear hunting :beer:
 
That was the plan, I gotta get both of em into building their own shit like God intended lol. Random but kids have the same PJ's lol. If you haven't yet, they make adult pants too that are awesome and work nice as long underwear hunting :beer:
hahaha, I can neither confirm nor deny that I have matching pajamas.
 
When my son in law was first dating my daughter he noticed the passenger seat belt in the jeep didn't spool out easily. He had one laying around so he gave it to me. I thought the one I had was ok, just sticky, so I said thanks but no thanks. At the time I thought he was just trying to make points with his date's dad (me). After I got to know him better and they got married I realized it was just a thoughtful gift with no strings. He just noticed a need and offered a solution that cost him nothing. I wish I had just said thank you, especially since I now need one as it is full on broken now. :homer:
 
Imagine your baby is born and you get $500 as gift money for baby.
Then 5 years later you're told you owe them for that "loan".
I think that's more about the person/relationship than the gift, and if that person has a history of doing that, I'd refuse the gift or distance myself from them.

When my 2nd kid was born, my brother's wife sent us a door dash credit. She knew we'd have our hand full and she thought this was a way to help. It's not cash, but effectively the same. I can afford door dash, but this was a genuinely nice gift. I also know her well enough to know there's no strings attached.
 
If I have gifts with strings attached, I tell them what the strings are to start with like labor (typically helping me with a task that is difficult solo). But they are usually wanting free dental work and I’m not doing crap for free.

If someone helps me and won’t take payment, I demand they take payment for now and if I get in a tough spot, I would gladly take the help then. Typically they oblige to that.

Other gifts I may or may not return. I don’t like buying stuff for people so I tell them not to buy anything for me.
 
Your daughter can't remain friends with your son's ex-girlfriend? Must the entire family shun her out of loyalty to your son?
Depends on what the ex was like. I've had ex's before that were clingy and used stuff like that and/or hanging out with friends/members of my family as a way to stay in my life somehow. I've also had some that I actually got along with better once a romantic relationship was no longer involved
 
Depends on what the ex was like. I've had ex's before that were clingy and used stuff like that and/or hanging out with friends/members of my family as a way to stay in my life somehow. I've also had some that I actually got along with better once a romantic relationship was no longer involved
Yeah, if it's an insecure chick trying to cling on & stay in the picture, I get it. If she & the son are well-adjusted adults who're mutually over their relationship & she's just good friends with the daughter, it's 'tarded to shoo her away.
 
One tried to set me up with a hawaii vacation. "Sorry boss, I gotta take some time off to enjoy this bribe."
Our shipping manager was complaining because a trucking company rep. kept trying to invite him out to a steak dinner. With no particular interest in calming him down, we said, "maybe it's not about business development & he just wants to fuck you" :flipoff2::lmao:
 
When my son in law was first dating my daughter he noticed the passenger seat belt in the jeep didn't spool out easily. He had one laying around so he gave it to me. I thought the one I had was ok, just sticky, so I said thanks but no thanks. At the time I thought he was just trying to make points with his date's dad (me). After I got to know him better and they got married I realized it was just a thoughtful gift with no strings. He just noticed a need and offered a solution that cost him nothing. I wish I had just said thank you, especially since I now need one as it is full on broken now. :homer:
He wanted that shit out of his parts pile. For someone who was 2+ decades older than him you should have figured that out. :flipoff2:
 
There is an older gentleman who lives in the HOA, we chat occasionally. I don’t think he has any family close by. He knows I’m out on property. He gave me a Harbor Freight spotlight a couple years ago, he said, “This thing is bright as hell, I don’t need anything this bright, but you could use it out where you are. You never know what might be out there!” (It sits next to my front door)

I have changed tires for random people, mostly women and elderly. I have also strapped/winched non-off-roaders out of places they shouldn’t have been driving (except for obvious dumbasses, they can pay AAA :flipoff2:). All have offered money. I will not accept payment, I guess I’m hoping if one of my family members is in a similar situation someone will come to their aid without strings attached.
 
Hats and hat-value "stuff" =/= $150 bottle of wine or a pair of box seats for a sportsball game.
Right, but gifts are gifts. :flipoff2:If it's not your thing, it's not your thing whether it's a " gift" or not . My kids are long out on their own, but I know I never had a need to forbid them from taking a gift so it's a different concept for me.
 
Our shipping manager was complaining because a trucking company rep. kept trying to invite him out to a steak dinner. With no particular interest in calming him down, we said, "maybe it's not about business development & he just wants to fuck you" :flipoff2::lmao:
If I’m likely to buy something big from a company I have no problem with their salesman buying me a steak.
 
If I’m likely to buy something big from a company I have no problem with their salesman buying me a steak.
Yabut, 95+% of our shipments are customer parts shipping via their designated carrier or freight forwarder. Our trucking needs are comprised of sporadic LTL shipments, no whale of an account - I'm going with "sales guy wants to fuck our shipping manager" if only to piss him off :laughing:
 
Gift cards. :shaking:
My kids sometimes want to cheat out on a friend bday with them and I get mad and make them put thought into it. No shortcuts of just handing someone a gift card.


Current situation. My son's ex-girlfriend wants to buy his sister a present for her bday. I don't think that should be accepted.

you know best. if the ex gf is trying to manipulate things and USE your daughter... fuck that.

people are weird and seem to not know boundaries.
 
Our shipping manager was complaining because a trucking company rep. kept trying to invite him out to a steak dinner. With no particular interest in calming him down, we said, "maybe it's not about business development & he just wants to fuck you" :flipoff2::lmao:
it is a cheap way to fuck the whole company.

I always say, 'hey, I'm totally for sale, but the price I want, you aren't gonna want to pay.'

I had a vendor ask, 'well, what is the number' and I calmly said 11m in cash transferred to my account in the Cayman's.

He laughed. I stared at him. Fuck that guy.
 
They have been advertising the shit out of these, and i have been kinda curious about them.

They don't look like much. It looks like a paintball gun would be way more powerful.

What do you think about it?
I honestly don’t know as I haven’t shot it yet. I want to use it on my neighbors stupid mean dog next time it’s being aggressive towards me on my property.

My buddy uses one for when he’s providing security services for some famous people, he doesn’t want to deal with using a firearm first and possibly getting sued or go to jail over it if it goes bad.

He uses pepper balls in his which he says some of them are extremely powerful. As far as the plastic hard balls go, I would say I bet they’d sting if hit by one.

I guess you could shoot paint balls from it if they are of the same dimensions
 
Depends on what the ex was like. I've had ex's before that were clingy and used stuff like that and/or hanging out with friends/members of my family as a way to stay in my life somehow. I've also had some that I actually got along with better once a romantic relationship was no longer involved
Bingo. It was a brief summer fling, they met on vacation and spent some time a few times. It's over now, she lives hundreds of miles away.
She's not the first one to try and hang onto sister in an effort to cling to him. It's not good for the girl, either. She needs to get over him and move on.
 
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