VG SERE
Yellow Skull
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- May 28, 2020
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Wild week here for us. We're 40's married, 2 kids, so a martini on date night is pinnacle of excitement usually. Sorry no cliffs
We bought a distressed house on a mountain, 1 mile from the edge of town. It's a pretty grand house with a view. We've spent a shit load of time, energy and money to make it a home. It's a big deal for us. We both grew up poor. Not on the streets poor, but I lived in the crappy trailer in the trailer park. Wife was barely better, she did grow up in actual house. (young me would have been jealous). We are very successful now, not through education, family, or luck. Through hard work determination and common sense.
Both of our neighbors are Mrs. Dr. and Mr. Dr. The East side neighbor Doctors didn't live here until recently. They owned the property and Mr. Dr. has a small orchard he played on. When he bought it he immediately violated several of the handful of CCR's that do exist here(talking bare bones and 40 years old). Our house was abandoned at the time. His only other close neighbor brought up the CCRs and were immediately threatened with lawsuits. They backed down and Dr. did his thing. We moved in and I BS'd with him here and there and was generally as neighborly as can be. Went and closed up all his friends honeybee hives when I had my field sprayed. Kept his "barn" kittens alive over the winter. (Seriously Dr. Farmer, your tractor shed is not a barn. No feed, no mice, no mice, kittens starve.) Couple years go by and they decided to build a house. It's a mountain and I own about the only place to turn around or park anything bigger than a F150. They ask if they can use our place for their heavy equipment. Sure, no prob! Then water. Sure, no problem. etc, etc.
Then they moved their shop. As they started the foundation, we realized he's moving right in our front yard. 5 acres and that's your choice. OK. We groused to each other a little, BUT we didn't say anything. His land, his rules. County setback is 5'. We'll one day run into our other neighbors, the ones from the previous dispute with Dr Farmer. We small talk and they bring up the shop, I grouse, but again his land his rules, 5' set back etc. "No, it's a 20' setback on the mountain", say whut? He warns me about Dr Farmer, he'll sue you, etc. What? No, we're cool. I immediately go verify the setback and then try to call him. No answer, I go over and stop the crew. I see Dr. Farmer later, and go over. He immediately threatens legal action. I actually laughed. I was very polite, but I told him it was a bad idea. It's very clear cut you're in the wrong. I asked the name of his attorney. I suggested he call him before he continued. Gave him our real estate attorneys name and left. I called our attorney and he actually recommend another litigator type so we did that. Time goes by and we don't hear anything, but they do move the shop.
Problem solved, life goes on. No big deal.
Except Dr Farmer does not feel the same way. He's been wronged! He tries to get petty revenge every chance he gets. Calls the city on my son's dog for coming in his yard. Sets up cameras watching our property. Tries to play the victim in to the Road Association. One day as my wife and I are busting ass on the 1 millionth house project I have to turn my truck and trailer around in between my house and our shared property line. It's weeds, nothing but weeds. But, I know he's a prick, cameras etc. So I do a Austin Powers turn with a trailer on my side, and get to work. Out comes Dr. Farmer to accuse me of driving on his property. I lose it. Dr. Farmer you make me feel like a creep. I have video of you trespassing, driving your tractor on my property, your dogs on several occasions digging holes in my yard, etc. It makes me sick to do it, but I have to thanks to you. I would never call the city on your dogs, as they are both ancient and would probably die. I haven't done anything with any of it, because I am not a prick. We HAD an issue, you FIXED the issue, and as far as I'm concerned that was it! It would have been GREAT if we could have been at least cordial, since we are gonna spend the next 40 YEARS AS NEIGHBORS! Dr Farmer "Well YOU cost me $15k". I walked off. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. But given his earlier issues with our other neighbors it tough. Either he's so dumb, he didn't read or remember the CCR's from his earlier dispute over the same shop. OR he knowingly violated them and hoped to bully us into going along. I read somewhere never attribute stupidity as malice or some shit and it stuck with me. When people do stupid shit, I try not to take it personal.
Now your pretty much caught up to this week.
Yesterday, I'm coming home from the gym and see a cop car and a city car on our road. That's not a thing. 1.5 mile posted private road, dead end. 11 houses, all respectable, mostly elderly.
Wife says 2 cops were at Dr Farmers house... Lots of cars there now
I say, no a cop and a...? Detective? No... The guy in the city car wasn't a cop.
Why do the police come to your house?
Generally only 2 reasons.
The second guy was a chaplain. 21 years in the military, I know how notifications go.
Wife and I both kinda laughed it off. it's all purely conjecture. We've seen a cop, and a "not a cop" in a city car...But...damn it looks like one of them died...
We had a historic wind storm Wed night. Power out everywhere. Trees down. We both had to wind our way to the gym that AM around downed trees.
Only 1 fatality...a lone unidentified female was crushed under a falling tree only a few miles from our house.
Mrs Dr (Dr)Farmer is dead. The lone fatality from the storm. Crushed on her way to work,
Now the rest of our neighborhood are salt of the earth good people. They are calling US to see what they can do for Dr. Farmer and his kids...You see our houses are the closest two houses on the mountain. BY FAR. 5 acres and he builds 50' away. We're about the same age, kids are close. 1 boy and 1 girl each. OF COURSE we're friends...right?
Shit...we'd still help. Prick or no, his wife died, his kids lost their mom. But..he HATES us...
So leave em alone? Offer? We wanted to drop a card and a meal, but then thought maybe a uber eats gift card so he can use it whenever? ( I wouldn't eat anything he offered me.)
So finally cliffs:
Neighbor is prick, his wife dies unexpectedly 1 in a freaking million accident( I guess technically based on population 1:500,000).
Do you
A: Offer condolences and help.
B: Leave it
(Epilogue: Yesterday is also trash day. He hauled his garbage down to the hard top. Saw him, so I knew it wasn't him that died. Wife was shocked, but I've seen people handle grief all different ways. His wife wasn't a fan of living up here, but he liked to play farmer. Betting he's staying. We may start a pool on date for the new wife. Hope she's cool or at least hot. Not gonna speak ill of the dead... )
We bought a distressed house on a mountain, 1 mile from the edge of town. It's a pretty grand house with a view. We've spent a shit load of time, energy and money to make it a home. It's a big deal for us. We both grew up poor. Not on the streets poor, but I lived in the crappy trailer in the trailer park. Wife was barely better, she did grow up in actual house. (young me would have been jealous). We are very successful now, not through education, family, or luck. Through hard work determination and common sense.
Both of our neighbors are Mrs. Dr. and Mr. Dr. The East side neighbor Doctors didn't live here until recently. They owned the property and Mr. Dr. has a small orchard he played on. When he bought it he immediately violated several of the handful of CCR's that do exist here(talking bare bones and 40 years old). Our house was abandoned at the time. His only other close neighbor brought up the CCRs and were immediately threatened with lawsuits. They backed down and Dr. did his thing. We moved in and I BS'd with him here and there and was generally as neighborly as can be. Went and closed up all his friends honeybee hives when I had my field sprayed. Kept his "barn" kittens alive over the winter. (Seriously Dr. Farmer, your tractor shed is not a barn. No feed, no mice, no mice, kittens starve.) Couple years go by and they decided to build a house. It's a mountain and I own about the only place to turn around or park anything bigger than a F150. They ask if they can use our place for their heavy equipment. Sure, no prob! Then water. Sure, no problem. etc, etc.
Then they moved their shop. As they started the foundation, we realized he's moving right in our front yard. 5 acres and that's your choice. OK. We groused to each other a little, BUT we didn't say anything. His land, his rules. County setback is 5'. We'll one day run into our other neighbors, the ones from the previous dispute with Dr Farmer. We small talk and they bring up the shop, I grouse, but again his land his rules, 5' set back etc. "No, it's a 20' setback on the mountain", say whut? He warns me about Dr Farmer, he'll sue you, etc. What? No, we're cool. I immediately go verify the setback and then try to call him. No answer, I go over and stop the crew. I see Dr. Farmer later, and go over. He immediately threatens legal action. I actually laughed. I was very polite, but I told him it was a bad idea. It's very clear cut you're in the wrong. I asked the name of his attorney. I suggested he call him before he continued. Gave him our real estate attorneys name and left. I called our attorney and he actually recommend another litigator type so we did that. Time goes by and we don't hear anything, but they do move the shop.
Problem solved, life goes on. No big deal.
Except Dr Farmer does not feel the same way. He's been wronged! He tries to get petty revenge every chance he gets. Calls the city on my son's dog for coming in his yard. Sets up cameras watching our property. Tries to play the victim in to the Road Association. One day as my wife and I are busting ass on the 1 millionth house project I have to turn my truck and trailer around in between my house and our shared property line. It's weeds, nothing but weeds. But, I know he's a prick, cameras etc. So I do a Austin Powers turn with a trailer on my side, and get to work. Out comes Dr. Farmer to accuse me of driving on his property. I lose it. Dr. Farmer you make me feel like a creep. I have video of you trespassing, driving your tractor on my property, your dogs on several occasions digging holes in my yard, etc. It makes me sick to do it, but I have to thanks to you. I would never call the city on your dogs, as they are both ancient and would probably die. I haven't done anything with any of it, because I am not a prick. We HAD an issue, you FIXED the issue, and as far as I'm concerned that was it! It would have been GREAT if we could have been at least cordial, since we are gonna spend the next 40 YEARS AS NEIGHBORS! Dr Farmer "Well YOU cost me $15k". I walked off. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. But given his earlier issues with our other neighbors it tough. Either he's so dumb, he didn't read or remember the CCR's from his earlier dispute over the same shop. OR he knowingly violated them and hoped to bully us into going along. I read somewhere never attribute stupidity as malice or some shit and it stuck with me. When people do stupid shit, I try not to take it personal.
Now your pretty much caught up to this week.
Yesterday, I'm coming home from the gym and see a cop car and a city car on our road. That's not a thing. 1.5 mile posted private road, dead end. 11 houses, all respectable, mostly elderly.
Wife says 2 cops were at Dr Farmers house... Lots of cars there now
I say, no a cop and a...? Detective? No... The guy in the city car wasn't a cop.
Why do the police come to your house?
Generally only 2 reasons.
The second guy was a chaplain. 21 years in the military, I know how notifications go.
Wife and I both kinda laughed it off. it's all purely conjecture. We've seen a cop, and a "not a cop" in a city car...But...damn it looks like one of them died...
We had a historic wind storm Wed night. Power out everywhere. Trees down. We both had to wind our way to the gym that AM around downed trees.
Only 1 fatality...a lone unidentified female was crushed under a falling tree only a few miles from our house.
Mrs Dr (Dr)Farmer is dead. The lone fatality from the storm. Crushed on her way to work,
Now the rest of our neighborhood are salt of the earth good people. They are calling US to see what they can do for Dr. Farmer and his kids...You see our houses are the closest two houses on the mountain. BY FAR. 5 acres and he builds 50' away. We're about the same age, kids are close. 1 boy and 1 girl each. OF COURSE we're friends...right?
Shit...we'd still help. Prick or no, his wife died, his kids lost their mom. But..he HATES us...
So leave em alone? Offer? We wanted to drop a card and a meal, but then thought maybe a uber eats gift card so he can use it whenever? ( I wouldn't eat anything he offered me.)
So finally cliffs:
Neighbor is prick, his wife dies unexpectedly 1 in a freaking million accident( I guess technically based on population 1:500,000).
Do you
A: Offer condolences and help.
B: Leave it
(Epilogue: Yesterday is also trash day. He hauled his garbage down to the hard top. Saw him, so I knew it wasn't him that died. Wife was shocked, but I've seen people handle grief all different ways. His wife wasn't a fan of living up here, but he liked to play farmer. Betting he's staying. We may start a pool on date for the new wife. Hope she's cool or at least hot. Not gonna speak ill of the dead... )