DFW Rusty
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This is not going to be a very interesting thread for 99% of you, but this is my last forum where I have some sort of anonymity from friends and family. I can't exactly get on Facebook asking questions about this... so... here I am.
I have officially been asked by my SIL to help her out. I am not very legal smart... I just seem to have common sense and I am good at being un-biased. My wife has helped her getting paperwork together for her attorney and what not, but my SIL asked me to help figure out why she is getting her ass handed to her.
Back story- My dumb sister in law (SIL) gets knocked up by a guy she dated for like 4 months and has his kid in 2015 (3 weeks after we had our middle child). SIL and baby daddy (BD) cant get along and split weeks before they have the kid. He is a real winner and already has 3 other kids with 2 other women. He is a broke ass bitch during all this, but his parents loan him the money to try and get custody of the kid from my SIL. He loses in court, due to him being on probation for a felony drug charge and a dui he got just weeks prior to the court date. They are granted mutual guardianship with her having the majority control. He bails and pretty much has nothing to do with her until mid last year, never paid a cent in child support either. He now owns a construction company and makes really good money. A situation happens on thanks giving of 2020 where my SIL kid stuck something up her butt and it got stuck. She had to take her to Cooks hospital, at which point due to the issue the hospital brought in a CPS agent and they asked my SIL kid why she did what she did and her response was "it's a game that my sisters and I play at my daddy's house". Side story: Her oldest sister (all siblings are from father, my SIL only has the one child) has a history of sexual abuse from her biological mother's situation as well as violent and sexual tendencies that everyone is fully aware of. The CPS agent at cooks advises my SIL to not let the child go back to the father's house until a court hearing and investigation is done. She complies and it stirs up a hornets nest. The father hires a good lawyer and some how gets the CPS case disband on "not enough physical evidence". Then he, to put it best, "retaliates" by getting a restraining order on my SIL on behalf of my SIL child saying that he is concerned for the child's well being. This lasted through christmas and most of January. A few weeks ago, SIL child came home from father's house with bruises on her lower back and butt and my SIL notified the CPS agent and she said that the bruises look too old to be circumstantial. In the last 3 months he has gotten the issued CPS agent that represents my SIL child to enforce all of his concerns on my SIL, yet all concerns my SIL has are always sidelined. NOTE: she has a shitty attorney that was cheap, and this is probably the majority of why she is getting her ass kicked.
Facts: Father has felony drug charge from 2011 that he just finished probation for in January of this year. Father has DUI conviction from August of 2015. He is $17,000 behind on child support, the daughter of which the thanksgiving incident is still living at his home. He has a pool being built and he was told to build a barrier around to keep the kids out yet he has not done it, this was brought up by my SIL attorney due to the violent tendencies of the eldest daughter and the fear that she may push a sibling into the pull.
Mother (my SIL): had a boy friend living with her during this time that had a felony assault charge which caused some issues between my SIL and the CPS agent (boyfriend is now gone). My SIL is renting a house on her own and is clean with no arrests, doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs. However, she lives in a crappy area (that is all she can afford) and her land lord technically lives on the same property behind her and is a known drug user and now the CPS wants her to either move or the landlord has to do a drug test (landlord said they are not doing a drug test). She has really shitty taste in men, but has never let her child be around these guys in any situations that would allow harm to the child. She has no taxable income because she cleans houses for people in the town she lives in.
Situation at current:
Court is not pressing the father to get the elder daughter who has a dangerous history in counselling even though in their court hearing in January he was advised to do so.
Court is not enforcing the barrier around the pool.
Court is not seeming too concerned about the fact that there is a case of child on child sexual abuse in the house of the father.
Court is threatening to remove child from mother due to living circumstances because druggy landlord lives in a house on the same property.
Court is not taking SIL complaints/ concerns seriously.
SIL notified CPS of child abuse from father and CPS agent shrugged it.
Court will not discuss the situation of the un-paid child support.
My questions:
I told her she needs to file a complaint with CPS that the agent is being biased towards the father. She is concerned that the CPS agent will be even more aggressive if she files a complaint. Do y'all think the complaint seem legitimate, because if so I am going to push her to do the complaint. Or do y'all think it's a bad idea for her to file a complaint?
Shouldn't the un-paid chiild support come into play? I mean if he had been paying over the last 5 years she might have been able to afford a better living situation.
Any general thoughts are welcomed....!?
or should I just say fuck this, it aint my fight. My wife told me last night that I didn't have to get involved, but my SIL child is almost like one our own. We know if the father gets custody we will not see the child again, and this bothers me deeply.
I have officially been asked by my SIL to help her out. I am not very legal smart... I just seem to have common sense and I am good at being un-biased. My wife has helped her getting paperwork together for her attorney and what not, but my SIL asked me to help figure out why she is getting her ass handed to her.
Back story- My dumb sister in law (SIL) gets knocked up by a guy she dated for like 4 months and has his kid in 2015 (3 weeks after we had our middle child). SIL and baby daddy (BD) cant get along and split weeks before they have the kid. He is a real winner and already has 3 other kids with 2 other women. He is a broke ass bitch during all this, but his parents loan him the money to try and get custody of the kid from my SIL. He loses in court, due to him being on probation for a felony drug charge and a dui he got just weeks prior to the court date. They are granted mutual guardianship with her having the majority control. He bails and pretty much has nothing to do with her until mid last year, never paid a cent in child support either. He now owns a construction company and makes really good money. A situation happens on thanks giving of 2020 where my SIL kid stuck something up her butt and it got stuck. She had to take her to Cooks hospital, at which point due to the issue the hospital brought in a CPS agent and they asked my SIL kid why she did what she did and her response was "it's a game that my sisters and I play at my daddy's house". Side story: Her oldest sister (all siblings are from father, my SIL only has the one child) has a history of sexual abuse from her biological mother's situation as well as violent and sexual tendencies that everyone is fully aware of. The CPS agent at cooks advises my SIL to not let the child go back to the father's house until a court hearing and investigation is done. She complies and it stirs up a hornets nest. The father hires a good lawyer and some how gets the CPS case disband on "not enough physical evidence". Then he, to put it best, "retaliates" by getting a restraining order on my SIL on behalf of my SIL child saying that he is concerned for the child's well being. This lasted through christmas and most of January. A few weeks ago, SIL child came home from father's house with bruises on her lower back and butt and my SIL notified the CPS agent and she said that the bruises look too old to be circumstantial. In the last 3 months he has gotten the issued CPS agent that represents my SIL child to enforce all of his concerns on my SIL, yet all concerns my SIL has are always sidelined. NOTE: she has a shitty attorney that was cheap, and this is probably the majority of why she is getting her ass kicked.
Facts: Father has felony drug charge from 2011 that he just finished probation for in January of this year. Father has DUI conviction from August of 2015. He is $17,000 behind on child support, the daughter of which the thanksgiving incident is still living at his home. He has a pool being built and he was told to build a barrier around to keep the kids out yet he has not done it, this was brought up by my SIL attorney due to the violent tendencies of the eldest daughter and the fear that she may push a sibling into the pull.
Mother (my SIL): had a boy friend living with her during this time that had a felony assault charge which caused some issues between my SIL and the CPS agent (boyfriend is now gone). My SIL is renting a house on her own and is clean with no arrests, doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs. However, she lives in a crappy area (that is all she can afford) and her land lord technically lives on the same property behind her and is a known drug user and now the CPS wants her to either move or the landlord has to do a drug test (landlord said they are not doing a drug test). She has really shitty taste in men, but has never let her child be around these guys in any situations that would allow harm to the child. She has no taxable income because she cleans houses for people in the town she lives in.
Situation at current:
Court is not pressing the father to get the elder daughter who has a dangerous history in counselling even though in their court hearing in January he was advised to do so.
Court is not enforcing the barrier around the pool.
Court is not seeming too concerned about the fact that there is a case of child on child sexual abuse in the house of the father.
Court is threatening to remove child from mother due to living circumstances because druggy landlord lives in a house on the same property.
Court is not taking SIL complaints/ concerns seriously.
SIL notified CPS of child abuse from father and CPS agent shrugged it.
Court will not discuss the situation of the un-paid child support.
My questions:
I told her she needs to file a complaint with CPS that the agent is being biased towards the father. She is concerned that the CPS agent will be even more aggressive if she files a complaint. Do y'all think the complaint seem legitimate, because if so I am going to push her to do the complaint. Or do y'all think it's a bad idea for her to file a complaint?
Shouldn't the un-paid chiild support come into play? I mean if he had been paying over the last 5 years she might have been able to afford a better living situation.
Any general thoughts are welcomed....!?
or should I just say fuck this, it aint my fight. My wife told me last night that I didn't have to get involved, but my SIL child is almost like one our own. We know if the father gets custody we will not see the child again, and this bothers me deeply.