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Can you still joke with your wife?

Rerock

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Seems that earlier on in marriage we could joke and laugh at the dumb shit we did/said (and ourselves).

At some point during the last year (COVID, at home 100%) that seems to have changed and the same shit we used to joke about has now become personal and gets lashed back and results in retaliation (tit-for-tat).

The result is eggshells and what goes along with it..

Don't even mention politics or masks; might as well be on the internet.

How do you turn it around and get that back?
 
Rerock said:
Seems that earlier on in marriage we could joke and laugh at the dumb shit we did/said (and ourselves).

At some point during the last year (COVID, at home 100%) that seems to have changed and the same shit we used to joke about has now become personal and gets lashed back and results in retaliation (tit-for-tat).

The result is eggshells and what goes along with it..

Don't even mention politics or masks; might as well be on the internet.

How do you turn it around and get that back?
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Divorce.
 
Good luck buddy, covid stuff is making things hard for people. I've never made the mistake of marriage, but I'd guess it's not so much the jokes as it is some underlying frustration. Women are good at being mad about everything but the actual problem.
 
What Karl said.
Get out. Go camping, or road trip, or vacation, or whatever. But be honest and have some fun.
If that don't work, go to counciling.
 
Rerock said:
Seems that earlier on in marriage we could joke and laugh at the dumb shit we did/said (and ourselves).

At some point during the last year (COVID, at home 100%) that seems to have changed and the same shit we used to joke about has now become personal and gets lashed back and results in retaliation (tit-for-tat).

The result is eggshells and what goes along with it..

Don't even mention politics or masks; might as well be on the internet.

How do you turn it around and get that back?
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I've noticed the exact same thing with my GF especially anything to do with the mask political thing. I actually had to have a come to Jesus with her a few weeks back mainly because of her turning into a covid Karen. I pointed out to her how she's flopping like a fish on her stance, essentially pick a fucking side and get on with life. I know where I stand and I will not change my position to suit whatever the fuck side you are choosing to be on that particular day.

She must have listened because she's been way better since then, honestly if she would have kept on driving down the road she was on she would have ended up homeless. I refuse to be treated like that.
 
Arickvan said:
be honest with yourself, are you doing the same thing as her?
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Yeah, he said it was back and forth, I reread before I got to your comment, OP is about as straight a shot as you can get.

The problem is familiarity. I don't suggest camping with her, I suggest getting away from her as far and as long as possible. She definitely feels the same way. It's the perfect time for you to take that tour of Thailand you've been dreaming of, and it's time for Stella to get her groove put back inside of her by a big thick hairy Italian cock as she eats prays and loves her way back to an orgasm.

After you've fucked a bunch of brown girls and Thelma & Louise get railed by that hitchhiker, you guys can co-habitate again.

I'm probably not even wrong. somewhere the Bonobo part of our heritage demands this, it's been experimented with over the years, but really OP should get into Swinging.
 
We have been together close to thirty years. The first few were “off & on”, I had a lot of shit I wanted to clean up from my first marriage first.

We’ve been through some things that would have ended many relationships. I think things we learned from previous relationships made us stronger.

Our oldest is on her own, the youngest is almost there. We recently bought a little travel trailer to set out on new adventures.

We joke around a lot, I think this is what got us through some tough times
 
Yep...

too much time together.

y’all each need your own friends and space, plus you feel pretty secure and you aren’t trying to win each other’s affections anymore.

MAYBE.

(I really haven’t figured it out yet, but that seems like what happens)
 
The last year of our marriage I couldn't joke about anything. More fawking didn't fix it, more time together sure as shit didn't do it since I'd gone from being home a few days a week to working 4-10s home every day.

Couldn't afford to do anything like camping since she was blowing any extra cash we had not that it would have fixed things anyway. :laughing:

I'd say a come to jesus meeting wouldn't be a bad idea but don't be a dick about it, be frank and honest, no fluff or ass kissing.
 
I just tell her if she doesn't straighten up I'll beat her with my dick. She smiles and threatens super glue.
 
Yup, can still joke and laugh and have a good time. Nothing has changed other than what we joke about...we're as good as ever.

If things are getting sour because you're stuck inside together, the marriage wasn't that good to begin with.
 
evernoob said:
Yeah, he said it was back and forth, I reread before I got to your comment, OP is about as straight a shot as you can get.

The problem is familiarity. I don't suggest camping with her, I suggest getting away from her as far and as long as possible. She definitely feels the same way. It's the perfect time for you to take that tour of Thailand you've been dreaming of, and it's time for Stella to get her groove put back inside of her by a big thick hairy Italian cock as she eats prays and loves her way back to an orgasm.

After you've fucked a bunch of brown girls and Thelma & Louise get railed by that hitchhiker, you guys can co-habitate again.

I'm probably not even wrong. somewhere the Bonobo part of our heritage demands this, it's been experimented with over the years, but really OP should get into Swinging.
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Oh yes, going into swinging with a relationship that is in trouble should work wonders.
 
Stopped reading at post 4. No. Can’t joke. I was a fun guy to date. Nothing I say is funny now. I don’t feel I’ve changed
 
We definitely have shorter fuses after a year of this bullshit. We're both aware and call each other out/understand.

She didn't however enjoy our 4 year old explaining to her parents(during one of the few meals we've had with them in the last year) that the government means well but is actually bad. I started to explain that they don't even really mean well but stopped when I looked up. :laughing:
 
Add said:
Have more sex. And have better sex too. It's the ultimate tool to both of your being happy
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completely agree. lots of sex and intimacy... do stuff together, exercise together. I was afraid the covid would make us crazy with so much time together, but it has been good. We had one kid come home during it and stay with us. (he's in grad school working on his teaching credential) and that kind of messed up our freedom, but we have worked around it and it has all worked out.

We all kid each other and joke about stupid shit we do.

you gotta talk. if you don't. everything gets interpreted weirdly.
 
Snowbird13 said:
Oh yes, going into swinging with a relationship that is in trouble should work wonders.
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Fuck yeah. Might as well have a kid too. That always fixes relationships.

Sounds to me like you two are still on good terms, you've just seen too much of each other for the past year. Plan some long weekends with friends, independently, and on alternating weekends. Not to go out sport fucking, just to get out of the house and away from the spouse for a few days. There's value for one in getting out, and value for the other in having a weekend at home alone.
 
Your ratio of positive interactions to negative interactions is skewed in the wrong direction. Do more fun stuff. Don’t be a dick about minor things.
 
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