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    Single dad to a 1 year old. How the fawk do we do this?

    #2
    Not much to it. You pretty much just water them every now and then and they just grow.

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      #3
      Originally posted by Yota Up View Post
      Not much to it. You pretty much just water them every now and then and they just grow.
      Agreed. So much love to him, and the love he shows me is unexplainable. Feel like shit for knowing he'll grow up in two homes. Not how I was raised, that's what doesn't sit well.

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        #4
        Is this a congrats single dad thread or a tragic single dad thread?


        Up is difficult, down is dangerous

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          #5
          Originally posted by TiTRD View Post

          Agreed. So much love to him, and the love he shows me is unexplainable. Feel like shit for knowing he'll grow up in two homes. Not how I was raised, that's what doesn't sit well.
          oh hell, i should have refreshed before i replied

          CONGRATS!!!!!!!

          You get to provide an awesome place that won't be appreciate for probably 20 or 30 years, but has potential to be absolutely kickass


          Up is difficult, down is dangerous

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            #6
            Originally posted by TiTRD View Post
            Single dad to a 1 year old. How the fawk do we do this?
            I couldn’t imagine raising my girls by myself, at any age

            The only thing I can think of is reach out to as much family as you can

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              #7
              Originally posted by Provience View Post

              oh hell, i should have refreshed before i replied
              Ditto
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                #8
                He will grow up in a kick-ass place.

                His mom is one of those that gives up when shit goes bad. I've tried 3 times to make it work, always unhappy. I waited 36 years to have a family. He was not an accident. Bad pregnancy. She's an amazing mom, but a fawking terrible partner.

                Hit me today as her other son's dad was picking his son up the same time as me. Not how I grew up. Shitty for my kid and her other kid.

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by TiTRD View Post

                  Agreed. So much love to him, and the love he shows me is unexplainable. Feel like shit for knowing he'll grow up in two homes. Not how I was raised, that's what doesn't sit well.
                  Don't worry much about the other home. Just make sure that your home is 100% love and as perfect as it can be to the best of what you do.
                  Honestly, it's really hard to screw this up. There are shit parents out there that are really shitty. And the kids still grow up loving them.
                  So put worries to rest right now, because if you worry you might miss a nice moment. Spend your time and heart in the here and now loving every minute of it. They grow up quick, and yous is at the super cute, super fun age right now. Over the next 6 months you'll have the cutest moments of your life. I think 18-24 months was my favorite part for that adorable baby stuff where they start talking and walking all goofy.

                  You don't really have to plan, either. That love you got will guide you every step of the way.

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                    #10
                    I could write you a post with 10,000 words on just the first year of doing it but I'll just try to keep it short and sweet for now.

                    Without knowing just how fresh this is to you...

                    You pretty much just do it. Start small just the basics, routine is very good at this point for you both. Time your day as best you can, meal times, nap times, bed times, fun times try to keep them the same, also make sure you get just a bit of you time.

                    Get some help from someone you trust, there are gonna be times you need it, best bet is grand parents, your parents not hers.

                    Involve that kid in everything you do as much as possible, everything is a learning moment no matter what it is.

                    Watch your back. There will be people that don't like how you handle this and they may bring the knives out, be ready for that. Make damn sure you keep a clean house and have plenty of supplies on hand CPS looks for that.

                    Warning, you are gonna be tired all the time, it's normal for the first few years until things get into a pattern so get your sleep whenever you can.

                    There's more but I'll add to it once other guys post up and my memory gets nudged.

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                      #11
                      Man i am in same boat as you with a 7 year old boy, ex and i split after 18 years,papers are being filed next week. Ill go into more detail when everything is legal and done.
                      but i know it sucks and its hard. But all i can say so far is do whats best for them, sometimes it dont feel the best but gotta raise them with no hate for the other parent as much as you may feel it. Its not fair to the kid.

                      pm me if you need to talk, it helps a ton trust me.

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                        #12
                        Good answers right out the gate.

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                          #13
                          Originally posted by Redtruggy View Post
                          Man i am in same boat as you with a 7 year old boy, ex and i split after 18 years,papers are being filed next week. Ill go into more detail when everything is legal and done.
                          but i know it sucks and its hard. But all i can say so far is do whats best for them, sometimes it dont feel the best but gotta raise them with no hate for the other parent as much as you may feel it. Its not fair to the kid.

                          pm me if you need to talk, it helps a ton trust me.
                          Thank you. Sincerely.

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                            #14
                            Day by day, and enjoy as MUCH of it as you can, then more. HE'S your family now. Don't make a villain out of mom....he'll make his own decisions in his own time. Play your game right, and you'll have a best friend forever.

                            I did it with my daughter, and she turned out a hell of a lot better than I did. She's made accomplishments that no one could imagine, and she's on track for another. My best friend, and she KNOWS dad has her back. I know because every time she feels like she's hitting the floor, I get a 'Daddy' call. I wish she'd not get there, but at least I still get to be there for her.
                            Last edited by Huntmaster; 06-12-2020, 11:55 PM.

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                              #15
                              You buck up





                              Its not about you....





                              Its about the kidlin




                              Make that person the most important person...



                              Until they're an adult


                              Its what you signed up for.
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                              "Gravity is theory But Murphy is law."

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